生命連結（二）要素一：他／她心中的好

 

註: 有標註＊的問題只適合基督徒。不是每一個問題都需要查考，帶領者可應需要調整。

參考資料：     1. Larry Crabb, Connecting: Healing for Ourselves and Our Relationships, (Thomas Nelson: 1978)

補充資料:  目的：基督徒的團體有著我們難以想像的能量，藉由分享從神來的生命，我們能成為一個身體，醫治內心深處的孤獨。生命結連是基督徒突破自己、幫助他人一舉兩得的契機。

本課重點：                       

基督徒是神「重生」的，有「新」的形象，與神「和好」，藉著「信」得著神的喜悅，成為神的「兒女」。

基督徒有聖靈在心中，有基督在裡面，從人性本惡［不得不壞］，變為人性本善［可以少壞］，我們應彼此相信，在我們心中有善。

Excerpt from the book:

l       "WE HAVE MADE A TERRIBLE MISTAKE! For most of this century we have wrongly defined soul wounds as psychological disorders and delegated their treatment to trained specialists. Damaged psyches aren't the problem. The problem is disconnected souls. What we need is connection! What we need is a healing community!" – Larry Crabb

l       In his most significant book since the immensely successful Inside Out, Dr. Larry Crabb expands on his lifelong work in the field of psychotherapy to adopt a groundbreaking, but biblical, approach that centers around building intimate, healing mini-communities in our lives and churches.

l       Dr. Crabb envisions a day when communities of God's people-ordinary Christians whose lives connect as husband to wife, brother to sister, friend to friend- will accomplish most of the healing that we now depend on mental health professionals to provide.

l       God has deposited within us the power to heal soul-disease, and that power is released to do its work as we relate to each other in revolutionary new ways. In challenging, practical language, Dr. Crabb shows us how.

補充資料:　Crabb, Connecting, pp.10-11:

God helps us become more like Christ by doing three things:

1.       he provides us a taste of Christ delighting in us – the essence of connecting

·          Accepting who we are.

·          Envisioning who we could be.

2.       he diligently searches within us for the good he has put there – an affirming exposure

·          Remaining calm when badness is visible.

·          Keeping confidence that goodness lies beneath.

3.       he engagingly exposes what is bad and painful – a disruptive exposure

·          Claiming the special opportunities to reveal grace that the difficult content of our hearts provide.

建議詩歌：

【永活更新的路】

詩集：新歌頌揚，133

我今行走永活更新的路，我今行走永活更新的路，

我今行走永活更新的路，在每一天，耶穌用他全能手引領我。

【基督在我裡面活】

詩集：新歌頌揚，130

現在活著的不再是我      乃是基督活著

現在活著的不再是我      乃是基督活著

祂活  祂活        基督在我裡面活

現在活著的不再是我      乃是基督活著

 

【打開話閘子】

 

1.       你認為人性本善，還是人性本惡？為什麼？如果人性本善，為什麼這麼多人讓人失望，你是否曾碰到過永遠不讓你失望的人？

 

2.       你是否做過別人眼中的惡人？作惡人的感覺如何？你都如何處理？

 

3.       如果有一個全善的神在你心中運行２０年，你覺得自己會成為一個什麼樣的人？試著想一個你認為最不好相處的人，如果一個全善的神在他心中２０年，你認為他會成為一個怎樣的人？對他的人際關係有什麼幫助？

 

【觀察討論】

4.        請閱讀創世紀1:26，這裡提到人一開始有神的形像，你認為這形象可能代表什麼？

補充資料:　神學家們對這個形像代表什麼意見不一，但大都贊成這個形像不是物質的，也就是說人不是在外表上和神一樣，因為神是個靈，沒有形體。另外，神的屬性分為可傳達的(Communicable)和不可傳達的（Incommunicable）。例如，神的道德屬性，愛心，信實，公義等等，會傳達給我們，但是神的無所不在、無所不能、無所不知是只有神能擁有的。

5.        請閱讀羅馬書3:23，這裡說到人都犯了罪，虧缺了神的榮耀，這是什麼意思？

補充資料:　榮耀在聖經裡常指的是神的同在，或是神的顯現，神本來照著祂的形像造人，人應當有神的美善，但因著人的犯罪，我們失去了神的形像，和神的同在。

6.        請閱讀以弗所書4:17-24，這段經文如何幫助你了解形像是什麼意思？你覺得自己有沒有這個新形像？

補充資料:　這代表基督徒已經有了一個新的生命，從人性本惡，虧缺了神的榮耀(Romans 3:23)，到人性本善，回到起初有神的形象的時候(Colossians 3:10)。這個形像有真理的仁義和聖潔，就像是神一樣。基督徒常常忽略對方心中的聖靈，但神已經重將一顆善心放在我們裡面。

7.        請閱讀加拉太書2:20-21，這裡提到「現在活著的不再是我，乃是基督在我裡面活著」？你認為這話是什麼意思？基督徒如何能夠知道基督在裡面活著？看看你周圍的基督徒，如果他們裡面有神活著，你對他們的看法會有什麼改變？

 

8.        請閱讀歌羅西書3:1-17，1-4節中有三個「一同」，分別代表什麼意思？如何幫助你明白「基督在我裡面活」的意義？

補充資料:　一同復活：戰勝了死亡，有新的生命，分享耶穌復活的生命。已經死了，生命與基督一同藏在上帝裡面：不是肉體的死，而是之前罪惡的生命已經死了，與基督代表是因著基督，唯有與祂聯合才有生命，「藏」可能代表信徒已經向這個罪惡的世界隱藏，或者如1:26-27, 2:12-13所說，能夠得知藏在基督裡的奧秘。一同顯現在榮耀裡：當耶穌再來時，信徒能和耶穌同享榮耀，完全戰勝罪惡，包括身體的復活。「一同」告訴我們是因著信我們可以和基督聯合，同死同活（過去）、同藏在神裡（現在）、同得榮耀（未來）。

9.        5-9節中提到哪些惡事？你是否曾在基督徒身上看到這些？你是否曾懷疑對方有神在他/她裡面？

 

10.    9-10節中的「已經」告訴我們什麼？

補充資料:　告訴我們有了新的生命，漸漸更新，雖然還可能有惡事（否則保羅不需要讓他們棄絕惡事），但是已經有起初神的形象，基督徒可以肯定有善在心中，且會越來越好。

11.    11-17節給了我們一個什麼樣的圖畫？你希不希望在這樣的小組裡面？第一步就是開始相信對方有神在裡面，有「好」在心中。

補充資料:　下面是我在教會使用過的例子。這位宣教士太太能夠看到一幅圖畫，他希望神能在Upoid心中運行，Upoid一定能更好。這就是生命連結帶來的醫治。一個有基督生命在心裡的婦人，和人分享基督在她裡面的生命。

In 1942 a missionary to Malaysia named Paul Fleming contracted cerebral malaria and returned home. While recovering he spent hours talking with pastor Cecil Dye about the need for reaching remote tribes for Christ. They formed an interdenominational agency named New Tribes Mission, and soon Dye, his brother, and three other men arrived with their families in Bolivia to establish a ministry among the Ayores, a wild tribe of Indians. Bolivians warned them of danger, but the men nonetheless moved their families into the heart of the jungle and established a base. From there the five plunged into the thicket in search of Ayores.

A month passed, and a search party set out along a rocky path over the hills. They found nothing but a cracked camera lens, a sock, a machete, and some other personal items. A second search found more effects at an abandoned Ayore site. Army troops prepared to invade the area in retribution for the apparent murders, but a mission representative stopped them, saying, “Don’t go! We want to reach them for Christ.”

Years passed, and the women moved deeper into Ayore territory, still hoping their husbands were alive. Then in 1948 a band of naked Indians appeared at the camp, took proffered gifts, and disappeared. Later they returned for more gifts and told the women their husbands were dead.

Gradually more details emerged: On November 10, 1944 the five missionaries had approached an Ayore village, creating great excitement. An impatient warrior had released an arrow, wounding one of them. Another missionary pulled out the arrow, and the five walked rapidly away. Upoide, an enraged warrior, led a band after the men, and one by one the missionaries were clubbed, speared, and killed.

The wives soon learned that it was Upoide himself who had approached their camp, telling the story. When he sensed the women would forgive him, he confessed his involvement, repented, and came to Christ. A permanent Christian settlement was soon established among the Ayores as a base for other missionary activity, and a fruitful ministry to South American aboriginals continues to this day.

【生活應用】

12.    如果你還不是基督徒，你願不願意得到這個新生命，你願不願意成為一個新造的人？

 

13.    如果無論你犯了多大的錯，都有一個人相信神在你心中運行，你會更好，這樣完全的接納對你有什麼幫助？

 

14.    在這個小組中，你是否看到基督徒的好？你是否相信在這一切惡事背後，他／她仍是好的？你們是否接納彼此，如同神已經接納了你？